It is usually when I'm talking with Don
that, together, we come across a simple way to describe what we make to be a complicated life. For example...
Don and I have decided that when a person is neglectful of something that could cause a grievance with self or others, that person is committing shady neglect. Examples of shady neglect could be leaving a pair of soiled underwear hanging at eye level in a tiny hotel bathroom in Paris while vacationing with a friend or seeing the cat jump into a friend's bathtub, then forgetting the cat is in there, then closing the bathroom door so the cats can't get in, only to remember after being out all day and the cat races out of the bathroom when the door is opened that the cat was in the tub, then realizing a few hours later that the stench coming from the bathroom is not because said friend keeps a dirty bathroom but because the cat peed on the bathmat while being locked in the bathroom all day.
In order to avoid acts of shady neglect, one can perform a simple action. When vacationing in a small hotel room in Paris with a friend, a person could remember that said friend will be entering the same small bathroom in which one is hanging said underwear and take the underwear when leaving said bathroom. A simple action for our second example is to not over-think the cat-in-the-bathroom-while-we-are-out situation and leave the silly door open.
Now, these previous examples were the groundwork for our thinking. Upon expanding our thoughts, Don and I realized that shady neglect does not need to be so spectacular as these previous examples nor cause a grievance with others. The neglectful act that is tainted with shadiness (shady neglect) may only affect ourselves, never to have an affect upon someone else. Example: replacing the non-skid stuff under the doormat DAY AFTER DAY AFTER DAY (shady neglect) cause the kids keep taking it out cause they have discovered that they like to gnaw on it, can be resolved by sewing the non-skid stuff to the back of the mat (or use double-sided tape). This simple action can result in a daily victory...not having to replace the non-skid stuff under the doormat any more...EVER!!!!! HAHAHAHAH!!!
Let us all take a step back and look at our lives...what is it that we may be neglecting in a shady sort of way? What simple action could we take in order to resolve that grievance for ourselves or others and create a daily victory for ourselves? Lemme tell ya, my list keeps growing...but when I get off my big buns and take some simple actions, I feel a lot better. You may too.
shady neglect + simple action = a happy mama