At times I will complement Mom; upon her hair, her outfit, her laughter, her crazy socks. Her standard reply (said quickly and with confidence) is "I know", such as:
PA: Mom, love your outfit, the shades of purple really are becoming to you.
Mom: I know.
PA: Mom, that's just rude. You should say "Thank you" when someone compliments you.
Then we both bubble over with laughter...and she never says "thank you".
Recently I have been reflecting upon my self-esteem. Let's just say that what I portray to the world (confidence, beauty, self-love) is not how I feel inside. When I receive compliments from others, I usually smile, say thank you, then promptly dispose of the compliment because those good thoughts don't apply to a cretin such as myself (in my head, remember? Not a safe place to be, you don't want to vacation there is all I'm sayin'). Now I am working on BELIEVING those good thoughts. I AM beautiful. I AM intelligent. I AM talented. I DO love myself. This is hard work, brain surgery for someone who has thought this way for eons, but I AM a strong woman and I AM able to change. I am working on stopping the negative thoughts in my head before they run rampant and replacing those negs with positives.
In the midst of all this self-work, I started thinking about Mom's replies to my compliments. Maybe I need to learn from her. Hear the compliment and think "I know", such as:
Mike: There's my beautiful wife!
PA: (I know) Thank you, if feels good to be beautiful.
Mike: Now give this Daddy a kiss.
You get the picture, I'll stop there.
I must BELIEVE, I must LISTEN, I must ACKNOWLEDGE, I must KNOW.